Someone you've probably shared quite a few of your opinions with is your significant other. In fact you and your spouse may find yourselves at two totally different ends of the spectrum as far as your opinions go. Don't freak out though, it's perfectly normal. No two people are exactly a like. More often than not you will disagree on probably one thing, even if you both have similar values.
Sometimes the only thing you can do when you find a particular issue dividing is agree to disagree. I'm sure you have many friends that think at least slightly different than you. Remember that when you find out something that you and your partner disagree about. Sometimes it can be a time for the both of you to consider a viewpoint you normally wouldn't.
It's also good to keep in mind that sometimes people do change their point of view on certain things. It doesn't happen too often but it does happen. It may happen due to a life changing experience or perhaps something a third party said that gives them a different perspective than before. As human beings we're constantly changing, and sometimes our opinions do as well.
We might have opinions due to our upbringing or in rebellion to our upbringing. Now you may keep most of those opinions for the rest of your life, but I think most people will find their true opinions later. They might be further away from where you started, or they could be only slightly different than you thought before. Everything shapes your opinions.
That doesn't mean you should be constantly waiting and expecting the other person to feel differently one day. That's something that can't really be determined. You can't calculate your chances of the other person changing their opinion. If they do or don't often times has nothing to with you at all. So don't let that control how you feel about your relationship.
At the end of the day opinions are just that, opinions. Don't take them too seriously that you end up hurting your significant other. Because the world isn't going to end because he likes fried chicken and you don't.
P.S. In this picture we were having a disagreement on what color to paint the walls. I don't remember who won, but it's now like bright pinky orange.
So true that opinions on things can change over the years. It is good to discuss and try to come to a mutual understanding and agreement on big matters that a couple might have different opinions on, like how to spend money, raise the kids, etc. Its good with opinions about colors of walls or food because that can be changed so easily and one can order chicken and the other steak :)
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I agree, thanks for reading Betty! :)
Deleteyeah---frank and I pretty much hold the same opinions on the big stuff---and the small stuff---who cares---good post!
ReplyDeleteThat's important, thanks for reading mom!
Deleteawww, how sweet your mom reads your blog. My mom won't even learn how to turn on a computer! haha
Delete"I'd rather be happy than right." The older I get, the more those become words I live by. When I was younger, it was important to prove I was right to everyone. Luckily, most things can be Googled these days so in some cases you can prove you're right fairly easily!
ReplyDeleteI like that quote, yes Google has ended a lot of light hearted arguments haha! Thanks for reading Stephanie!
DeleteHaha! you don't look like you're arguing in the photo!
ReplyDeleteOle Boy and I rarely have differing opinions...how boring are we??!! lolz
We were about the paint haha! That's nice that y'all tend to gel like that. Thanks for reading!
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