You probably all have heard some quote about a woman trying to change a man. Whether it be his wild ways, or maybe his eating habits. What is actually worth changing? And what is easier or better left alone.
Furthermore can you really love someone if you don't love all of their qualities. I believe you can, but to a degree. Acceptance to me isn't about loving every quirk but about loving them in spite of the annoying quirk. You may not love how your husband eats too much grease, but you still love him. It's bigger parts of their personalities that you must at least accept to truly love the other person.
Acceptance is one of the universal things we strive to get as a species. So of course we need it from the one person we plan to spend the rest of our lives with.
Acceptance isn't just about the other person. It's about you too. What you're willing to accept, what your deal breakers are in a relationship. Some people want to talk everything out, others want things to just be forgotten. If you don't know going in what you'll accept how can you expect the other person to know. That's not to say though that if you find you have different deal breakers 5 years later that you shouldn't talk about them, and that you shouldn't ask your partner what they need from you as well.
Sometimes we don't accept things about our partners because we think they could do more or deserve better. It's good to support the people we love, it's healthy. As long as they know we love them for them.
So what do you accept?