- Being honest with each other, but only about the things that really matter.
- Being loyal to each other, even when it means not being loyal to someone we're close to.
- Being concerned for each other, and letting them know we're always going to be concerned about them.
- Having their back even in the hardest of times. Especially in the hard times.
- Agreeing to go for ice cream even though it's a little late just because you know it makes her happy.
- Praying for each other.
- Watching your least favorite movie in the world just because you know it makes him happy.
- Being able to read their face with other people and knowing what they're probably thinking.
- It's accepting the little things because you love the biggest and greatest parts of their personality.
- Drinking coffee in the early morning light, and not really saying a word because it's just too early for that.
- Me realizing I forgot to tell him I wanted a Sprite from Arby's and he remembers to get me one anyways.
Marriage, at least for us, is all these things and so much more. It's all the good in the moment, and the promise of what's to come for us. What does marriage mean to you?
I'm not sure being honest about only the things that matter is possible. To me a sound marriage is built on unshakable, unswerving, unalterable trust. Without it the foundation is shifting sand. I would have a really hard time trusting anything my spouse said if I caught him being anything but honest with me...but then I am a black and white kinda gal.
ReplyDeleteAs for what marriage means to me, it is knowing I'd rather be with him than anyone else, and knowing he feels the same way. It's being willing to grow and change even when it isn't comfortable, and doing it together. It means saying yes to both of our wants and needs, even if that means a bit of compromise. It's about getting old and gray together, and still holding hands in public. It's having my best friend beside me through happy and sad times, through thick and thin, and in sickness and health. It's still getting a hitch in my breath when I see him coming toward me--after 36 years together he still makes me twitterpated! :)
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I didn't mean about major things, more so not being honest in a way that could only hurt your spouse. Thanks for reading!
DeleteI think it means choosing them day after day to be your "person". He's always there for me, always has my back, and he knows me unlike anybody else. And vice versa. Great post!! :)
ReplyDeletePerfectly said, thanks for reading Heather :)
DeleteNot a bad list, though there's no reason to watch your least favorite movie, because how or why would enjoy watching it with you knowing you're not enjoying any of it. Marriage is being honest enough to be yourself and strong enough to know the other half can do the same thing and it doesn't hurt your marriage. To grow in marriage means being your own person as much as being a couple. If you only do what makes the other person happy it's one sided, and shallow and it will soon become stale. Marriage means choosing the other person still even on day you don't like them very much. We'll celebrate our 43rd anniversary in June. Good luck to you in your marriage. Would love you to get your looms out again, make and donate somethiing for Bridge and Beyond.
ReplyDeleteSandy at Bridge and Beyond
You may disagree without being rude.
DeleteYou made a great list of what marriage means :) Marriage to me means commitment, no matter what is going on in our lives and sticking together through thick and thin (and having lots of fun too)
ReplyDeletebetty
I agree! Thanks for reading Betty :)
DeleteI like that you include being loyal to each other even if that means not being loyal to someone else you're close to. I think that's huge.
ReplyDeleteOh me too! Loyalty is a big thing for us. Thanks for reading Danielle!
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